Why am I not Finding My Soul Mate?

I am a 27-year-old girl who honestly wants to find true and lasting love. I have been through a few serious relationships - the last one being the shortest but weirdly the most impactful one. I thought he was the one, but it didn't work out. This was about a year and a half ago. I was ready to start dating again about 8 months ago, and I've met a bunch of guys but haven't felt that spark with anyone so far and to be completely honest I haven't had guys show an interest in me the way they used to. I don't understand what has changed.

I live a full and complete life. I have a great family and great friends. My work is also going pretty well. The only thing I miss every single day in my life is having that special someone. It really hurts me. I have read up about the law of attraction and do my best to stay positive all the time but there are moments when I feel low and crazily lonely. I want to have someone to share my love with. I do not know what I am doing wrong. I know I have set my expectations rather high, but I do believe that I deserve someone with all the qualities, I imagine him to be.

I am done with my past and want to start fresh with someone who I fall in love with and vice versa. Any help or guidance from you would be much appreciated.

-Anna, Libra

Hello Anna,

This is a great question, and thank you for explaining yourself so well. What is most impressive to me is that I get the feeling you are investing energy in trying to create a new future, but it is just not happening yet. More often than not, investing the right amount of energy is usually the problem with not creating futures you wish to experience.

The universe has a very different opinion, than humans, regarding the amount of energy that is required to achieve goals, especially major goals like creating soul mates. This is why all people can't lose all the weight they want to, and whenever they want to.

It is not that their bodies can't adapt to lose weight; the universe created a perfect vessel for souls that can gain or lose weight based upon the decisions and actions (investment of energy) of the soul operating the vessel. It is the inability to invest energy and stay committed to losing weight that prevents most people from doing it. Often, this is the energy of temptation, which only wants to take you from the path you have decided to create for yourself. Sloth, which means lazy, not making decisions, or not investing energy, is one of the strongest, and most overlooked temptations

There are some things you said that really jumped out at me. I believe your answers lie within your questions.

"in eight months I met a bunch of guys but haven't found a spark with anyone yet."

Again, I applaud you for your efforts. You have set a goal, and defined the soul mate you want to share your future with. The universe will take your definition of what you want to create and "fill in the blanks," so to speak.

It is impossible for a human to create a definition so detailed that the universe doesn't have to fill in the blanks. It is sending you potential matches that are close, but not ideal. This is sign that you may wish to redefine what you are looking for and provide the universe with more details. The people the universe sent you all have positive and negative traits you can learn from to fine-tune your goals. Add these traits to your list when you create your soul mate, and you will help the universe send you better candidates. 

"I deserve with all the qualities I imagine."

The universe doesn't comprehend anything that starts with "I deserve..." This is a human opinion and has no value of energy towards creating a future to the universe. In fact, it can be considered the temptation of pride.

The energy of virtue that corrects pride is humility. A better way to harness this energy is to make personal improvements to evolve your soul. Soul mate relationships are not about what you deserve, or what you can get from them. They are about all you have to contribute to them. If you invest energy on self-improvement and becoming a contributing soul mate, the universe can improve the quality of the soul you seek.

"I am a 27-year-old girl."

The universe doesn't measure time. Time is a human concept. It doesn't care if your 27 or 87. It can only create the environment you desire by your decisions and efforts. You are not owed anything because of your age or whatever energy you think you invested so far.

"I do not know what I am doing wrong. I know I have set my expectations rather high."

Good for you, you are supposed to set your expectations high and avoid the temptation of settling for something less because you feel lonely. Draw strength from this, because it says a lot about you as a soul and what you have to contribute to the right relationship.

I believe if you continue on your path, fine-tune it a bit, and continue to invest energy achieve your goal; you will have created and found your perfect soul mate. However, you also have to invest energy in becoming the perfect soul mate this person is also looking for.

"I don't understand what has changed."

When you are heavily committed and focused on achieving a goal, the universe can implement what I refer to as a "Groundhog Day" environment. The concept is based on the movie with Bill Murray, where he relives the same day, over and over again, until he gets it right.

What has changed is you, and your commitment to your goal. What you think was valuable in your past, such as "I haven't had guys show an interest in me like they used to," is no longer relevant. At your request, the universe not creating future potental paths of destiny that no longer apply to your goals and could distract you from your chosen path. The only way to get out of the Groundhog Day effect is to give up (which I don't recommend) or keep working until you finally get it right.

My last point has nothing to do with finding your soul mate. It has to do with charitable energy. You are asking the universe for something. Based on the universal laws of Yin Yang, it will greatly help your chances if you give something to the universe.

Charitable energy is the most powerful energy in the universe. I would recommend you find opportunity using  this energy. This is tricky. You can't invest charitable energy because you want to get something back, otherwise it is not charity. In essence, you are expecting something in return. If you give freely and make yourself more available to help others the universe will put in your path, then you will be rewarded in ways you can't imagine today.

The universe does notice this energy. Basically, your desire to create the future you want to experience is no longer all about you. I promise you, if you watch and look for sudden opportunities to help total strangers, they will come.

Help them freely, and you have become an assitant for the universe, and the universe tends to take care of those souls that make themselves available for this service.

You are doing great! Just do a little fine-tuning, be available for universal charity, and I promise you that you will be the answer to someone's prayers. Someone with the same desires and values that you have.

Love and light,

Jordan Canon
Spiritual Advisor
Free-Spiritual-Guidance.com

Who Should I Marry?

Dear Jordan,

 

I have been with Ryan for the past 7 years, married for almost 3 of those years. In September 2012, I left him. I was being taken for granted, lonely and empty for many months in my marriage.

Since then, I met Bob. I felt as if time stood still when I met him and we have connected ever since we met, on an emotional, intellectual and spiritual level. We always feel as though we've known each other for years. Now we are becoming intimate physically also. I sometimes feel like he is everything I ever wished for in my deepest subconscious level.

I am under immense pressure from my family and Ryan to return to my marriage. I am very confused which man/path will be the best one for me. I am afraid I keep making wrong choices in love because this is the second marriage to have fallen apart for me.

Should I take a chance on Bob, who to be honest, loves me in a way ive never been loved before and feel like its too good to be true. Or should I go back to my old life and ex-husband to try to make it work? Please give me your insight and guidance!

I'm not afraid of change, but I just want to know which man is the right one for me. Please be honest with me, if you also feel I have some kind of psychic garbage or emotional blockages that prevents me from truly loving a man or trying to make my relationships work?

Thank you Jordan. 

Jenny, 

Libra.

Hello Jenny,

I promise you no one has a disdain for "psychic garbage" more than I do. I am not a psychic, nor do I tell people what life's choices to make. That is your gift from the universe, commonly known as free will.

The whole point of this existence is to evolve your soul, which you can only do through the relationships you choose to create and invest energy in. If you are not secure enough to make the decision of your soul mate because of pressure from your family, or "fear" of making a correct decision, then I might suggest you consider the possibility that you are not yet complete enough for a soul mate relationship, and/or unqualified and ready to make the decision at this time.

The whole idea of a soul mate relationship is to become complete yourself, meaning you offer the relationship security, stability, and positive contributions that give you and your soul mate the opportunity to grow as one strong and evolving union.

Relationships entered into with insecurity, or worse, that appear to solve "I need problems," are highly likely to end up in the ways you find repeatedly experiencing.

Why?

In all likelihoods, you haven't invested enough time, energy, and effort in evolving your own soul to be worthy of the perfect soul mate you might create for yourself.  Basically, you haven't evolved. As a result, the universe has a way of putting you back to square one so you can achieve the opportunity to evolve again.

As a Libra, you have the gift of generally making right decisions. It would not be a surprise to have many friends who seek your advice on decisions they have to make. A Personal Spiritual Astrology Reading will help you find the abilities your soul has been blessed with. Knowing these abilities will help you harness the power of your soul and get a greater return on your efforts.

I would also recommend you read and reread the three steps it takes to evolve your soul. They would be:

• Spiritual Enlightenment 
• Spiritual Awareness 
• Spiritual Growth 

Do this, and you will be able to incorporate the process of creating the future you wish to experience with the gifts and energy of your soul. If you invest energy in this evolution, you will find yourself on a new path of destiny you have created for yourself.

Lastly, I would recommend you read How to Find a Soul Mate. One doesn't really find a soul mate. Like any potential path of destiny, they create one. If you were to create the perfect soul mate for yourself, would either of these two candidates be the perfect soul you would create for yourself?

Then, once you create this perfect soul mate, are you the perfect soul mate this person would create for themselves? You should be able identify areas of opportunities you can improve as a person to become complete, and create a soul mate relationship that achieves the goal you both with to experience.

I would also recommend you get Free Relationship Compatibly Readings for each candidate. These reading will help you understand where you are now, and open your mind to where you may wish to go. If you wish to further define your current position in life, and create possibilities of future paths, I recommend reading The Six Laws of Spiritual Direction.

Once you invest energy in creating the future you wish to experience, The Universe will begin to create an environment for you that begins to define your efforts. It won't be perfect right off the bat, because your definition of what you desire to create won't be perfect.

Think of The universe is a perfect mathematical program that creates environments. It may send you a soul that matches your description, but you will realize you may need to fine-tune your definition and re-invest energy based on your new goals. The process is quite simple; the execution requires effort, and the more effort you are willing to invest, the higher your return on investment will be.

If you learn how to use your Daily Spiritual Astrology Reading, you will find a more efficient way to communicate with the universe. It works, trust me, and try it for a week.

My last point is time. "How long will this take?" is a question I get a lot. Time is a human concept, not one of the universe. The universe understands energy and effort.

Say you want to lose 10 pounds. Exactly, to the minute, how long will it take to do that? You won't know, but the universe does know exactly how much energy and effort it would take for you to achieve that goal. If you decide to take six months to expend the energy and effort, and it will take six months. It is all up to you under the universe law of free will.

I hope this helps you and gives you something to consider as you embark on this important life decision. You have a taken a great first step, and if you are not afraid of change as you say, you will create your answers to the questions you seek.

Love and light,

Jordan Canon
Spiritual Advisor
Free-Spiritual-Guidance.com

Why is there So Much Hate in the World?

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My mommy says you are the smartest man she knows. I would like to know why there is so much hate in the world.

-Jackie, age 8 

 

Hi Jackie, please thank your Mom for her kind words.

I am not one that believes there is so much hate in the world. In fact, I believe the amount of love is thousands of times greater than the amount of hate. It is just a matter of what we focus on.

Here is what I mean. Stare at any one of the three dots in this picture. Just stare at one, and only one. When you do so, what happens to the other two dots? 

 

They disappear, don't they?

Rare instances of hate can appear like stars against a black sky. They are bright and flashy, making it seem like there are a lot of them, and they get out attention. 

 

But they only do so against a black background which could represent love. If you focus on the whole sky, you might agree there is not as much hate as there appears to be.

This doesn't appy to just love and hate, it applies to all that exists, and especially evolving our relationships. It is what you focus on that becomes what you see.

Love and light,

 

Jordan Canon

Spiritual Advisor

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